The Power of Your Body

 Our bodies have so much power, and not just with how much we’re able to lift or carry. Physical strength is important, but even the weakest of people have the ability to control a room with their body movements alone. At this point in the book, you should have a basic understanding of what a person’s body language might mean. We can’t get into every specific detail of what someone’s physical actions might be trying to convey, but the framework for how to analyze those movements is there. Once you understand how someone else might be using their body to persuade others, you can start to work on your own skills of persuasion. There are many ways that someone can use their body to convince others to do what they want, but it won’t always work on everyone. Some people respond to sexual persuasion while others are repulsed by the thought. Some people respond to a physical threat from those that seem stronger than them, but others might be ready for the fight. There are plenty of ways that you can use your body to persuade others without being sexual or physically intimidating. Keeping your body open and visible is crucial in letting others know they can trust you. Try making sure to remove physical barriers that might keep you separated from the person you’re talking to. Step around a chair or table that’s blocking you from making a full connection with the person you’re trying to talk to. This also shows that you’re confident and interested in speaking your mind while hearing what the other person has to say as well. When analyzing other people’s movements, you can also figure out what things you can do yourself to be more confident. Study certain celebrities and see how they hold themselves in various scenarios. Everyone has their own movements, but mimicking others can still help you find your own footing when it comes to having a persuasive demeanor overall. Smiling is Important Our smiles are one of the most powerful tools we’ve been given. You can turn any situation from bad to good just by turning up the corners of your mouth. Some people feel as though if they don’t have straight teeth or smiles that are bright white, they aren’t worth anything. Even those that don’t have all their teeth can have much more beautiful smiles than someone that’s spent thousands on dental work. A smile isn’t just about what teeth you’re showing. It’s a way to engage another person. Studies have proven that most people will smile if someone else smiles at them first. If they do smile, they’ll end up having a better mood overall. It can seem weird, but simply smiling can lift someone’s spirits. Next time you are feeling particularly down, smile. It sounds so silly, but it might work. Smile over and over again, and even though it might not turn your mood around, it will certainly help to at least temporarily lift your spirits. Human Psychology You don’t have to be a psychology expert to have a basic understanding of how the human brain works. Once you get to know how our brains operate, you can begin to analyze people much more easily. You’ll start to realize that those around might act a certain way because of the way they were raised and the things that they were taught. Once you have a basic understanding of human psychology, you’ll start to put together the pieces of what makes the people around you the unique individuals they are. You’ll realize a lot more makes sense about why a person does the things they do if you can look into their psychology. Even those incredibly skilled in human psychology make mistakes every now and then. There is still so little known about the human brain that of course, not everyone is going to be right all the time. The brain is the most complex organ in the body of any animal, not just humans. It can be hard to understand it and figure out what secrets lie inside that make a person tick. You can still attempt to get to know the inner workings of a person’s brain, and even though you won’t have all the answers, you’ll start to understand them a little better. There is little known about the human brain, and what is known has been discovered by the brain itself! Isn’t it strange to think that everything we know about the brain was taught to us by our own brains? This complex organ will never fully make sense to anyone, but that’s part of the fun of trying to discover someone. It’s important to not use someone’s own psyche against them. The intention should never be to persuade people to do something in which only you gain. Some people have more sensitive brains that are more susceptible to influence. While some people choose to remain ignorant, others legitimately don’t have what it takes to grasp that they might be getting taken advantage of. You should never knowingly take advantage of another person that can’t understand what’s going on. Some people require tactful approach, mostly because they aren’t ready to confront their own issues. Not everyone has even a basic understanding of their brain or why it does and thinks the things it does. Some people are afraid of their own minds, so they aren’t as willing to confront themselves and their emotions as other people might be. It’s important to remain patient with those that might not be as self-aware as you. Creating Vulnerability Others respond well when one presents themselves as vulnerable. Humans connect on a societal, human, and animalistic levels. In all three of those categories, vulnerability is sought in order to make a connection. No one wants to feel as though they’re talking to a refrigerator. Vulnerability is important in letting the other person know that you are human as well. It’s comforting to know there is another person that’s relatable. We all have our flaws, conscious mistakes, and days when we’re just lazy. Some of us have days when it can be difficult to even get out of bed. If you can show part of this side to another human, they’ll be more likely to connect with you. Many of us desire to be that perfect person that’s seemingly flawless. We look at those Instagram celebrities, see their perfect skin and hair, and deep down, wish that we could be like them. Most people don’t realize that they wouldn’t want to be friends with this person, however. There needs to be a balance when making deeper connections, so presenting yourself as too unattainable, too perfect, will only drive others away in the end. Vulnerability is dangerous when it becomes codependency. Of course, it’s good to show others that you’re a real human with thoughts and feelings. However, sometimes, people become too dependent on others when trying to make a connection with them, and they end up dabbling in the dangerous world of codependency. When you get rid of your own thoughts and feelings and start to take on the opinions of others around you too much, there’s a chance you might have some codependent tendencies. There are ways that a person can present themselves as vulnerable, and they’ll find that people respond well to this. Sharing too much is something that can make many people uncomfortable. You don’t have to tell everyone your darkest secrets to make them think that you have a vulnerable side. There are other ways to prove to those around you that you are a relatable person that they can make a connection with.